Bringing the Best You Forward ~

Good morning and Happy Sunday!

We are sitting with some really intense energy, today, as we have the August Supermoon upon us! Can you feel it? Have you felt it for the past week building? I certainly have. Epic ah-has occur as we break free from the bond of conformity and learn to breathe our own air. What do you want, what have you been hiding, what will make you happy? All questions that have been coming to the surface over the last couple weeks. Today, the energy builds. Are you questioning your sense of reality, what direction you will go, have you felt at a dead end or like something is changing? Well you are being offered the universal support to make the radical tweakings this may involve.

All About Being True To You ~

So, what does that mean for you? What will that shake up inside of you? You can sit and sense the energy but will you sit long enough to allow it to come up into conscious thought so that you can really get to know it, really become aware of it and to ultimately make the adjustments that will support you being on the path that is best suited for you, now. Your soul is calling, your being is being beckoned, and now is a powerful time to achieve that which you desire!

I am often dumb founded, as I sit and listen to people talk about their lives. They will actually talk and as they begin to discuss certain things that they are unhappy with, what they are not aware they are doing, is creating themselves to be some sort of victim of circumstance. It is physically and spiritually painful for me to sit with at times. I want to stand up and shake them and say, do you realize who is in control of your life? You!!!! Do you realize that if you used 50 % of your energy to create a path that is desired by you, you would slowly get there. Do you realize that YOU are the only person that change your life and ultimately create your happiness and contentment? Do you realize that you have allowed your potential to be smothered by the conformity of this culture in which you try so hard to be a part of? Do you recognize that the more you resist the change you need, the unhappier you are? I could go on and on, challenging the wounded psyche that believes that life is only what is presented. As I just mentioned, It pains me, it saddens me, thus I write and offer as much as I can to assist people the support to get out of their own way! It is time for us to look at a new way, a way to break free, a way to believe, a way to build, a way to know our passions, our pursuits of happiness and to commit a new way to traveling towards creating that new reality, for ourselves and everyone around us.

Why do we play small? What part of not showing up 100%, everyday, feels good? What part of looking at our life and feeling unhappy makes us decide to go dormant? What is it that scares us so much or numbs us to the point that we just sit back, unhappy, sad, feelings of defeat of powerlessness and just exist there? Well, I have my ideas, and I will share. It is mere habit. It is mere mental habit. We are constantly bombarded with ideas of suffering for others, for playing it safe, for not allowing what we want to be important. I say, RIDICULOUS! We are a clan of beings that have been vexed by religious conformity, political vendettas and corporate marketing to dumb us down, take away our primal senses and keep us feeling like, if we want to be accepted, we should do it this way or that way. We are living out old wounds, old failures and out of date ideals for a healthy and whole life. MAny have become completely complacent. Isn’t it time for you define what your life should look and feel like? Isn’t it important to do this for all the people that we love and care for as well? What about being an example of authentic living? What about those children watching and learning, day in and day out, what you are doing? They are taking on your habits. We owe to ourselves and to others to stop playing small. We deserve, just as much as another, to be happy, really happy!!

Take the time to really get in touch with what is tugging at your soul, your being, and take a few moments, hours, days, to really ponder what it would feel like to be living out your idealized life. Would it really be that bad? Would it really take that much to rise above the conditions that are squishing your life force? Do you really think there is any other way to arrive at happiness and contentment than through your own pursuits? No, there is not. No one else can give it to you, no objet can truly fulfill you, no drug can contain you, no grief can kill you and no momentary sensual satisfaction can define you. I could go on and on and on…

Take your power back, look at your life, what do you want? What do you not want? What can you do, today, in one small way, to get you moving closer to your ideal life?

Now, take that step, as small as it is, and breathe… You will feel the energy of life moving through you, you will know that you are waking back up, you will begin the greatest journey that you have ever imagined and look who is doing it, who is creating it… YOU!

Controlling Others ~ Out of Control

Today I ask why it is that others attempt to be so controlling. The interesting part of this question is that it provokes intense thoughts and actually spawns many answers.

The truth, as I see it, is that most have absolutely no idea they are doing it. This truth allows me to enter a space of compassion as to how they seem to be so out of control. Get it… See it? When one human being is trying to control another human being, they ultimately are the one that is completely out of control! No self worth, no centering, no respect of another persons life and lessons. You see, it is so easy to look out from your body and be quick to judge, to want to direct, to feel superior, to act better, to place blame, to want to tell someone what they need to do for their happiness or to live a better life. But truly you have no idea what would make the other person happy, or what would fulfill that persons life. We are breed from a culture that is passively controlling everyone with hidden images, tag lines, laws, philosophies and ideals of the perfect lifestyles, but we are not cookie cut beings. We have so much ridiculous potential, if we choose to focus there, but instead we use our innate force and will to try to fix others, tell them how to be, how to make you happy, what they are doing wrong, why you do it better and completely ignoring the real issue at hand, your own mental madness. You have been bombarded for years with other peoples ideas, brands, images, desires, wants, dislikes and you have formed an ideal image of what you think perception is. What you see in error in others is ultimately something you may be struggling with yourself. The problem is that each of us have the conscious ability to create our own ideals. So, we have billions of people, all individuals, with individualized thinking, whether conditioned of not, and if you are not aware of many things, you will think that others should operate just like you. Not true! This is your madness. What is right for one, may be absolutely absurd to another, and that is ok.

I hear people tell me all the time how happy they are, how in control they are, how life is great, but then when I observe them, there are many non congruencies with their statement. It is of the highest emotional intelligence and stellar intention, In each relationship, to allow the other to show up the way they are! If you can not do this, at least be honest enough to tell the other person that you are struggling to accept them. Be vulnerable, if you want them in your life, and do the work to find what the real issue is with this. If you can not accept them, do them a favor and leave them alone.

Life is about sharing, experiencing, growing, learning, being, influencing, and you may want to take some quiet time to explore what you are doing, or being.

I can not be controlled, I will not be controlled and I would never, ever consider to ask another to meet my ideals. A little glimpse of my freedom is that I allow you to show up as you, if I like and it feels good, great! I then being a relation to see if we have deeper context to share and experience together. If so, lovely. If not, that is ok!

I am in a space of realizing how much people in our culture are going mad trying to control their lives, and others.

Breathe. Open, let go, breathe again. Life is grandiose of opportunities and wanting to pour beautiful experiences onto you. How will you see or be open to it if you are in a close fisted mentality to how it should already be?

You can not control another human being, you can not. You will not be happy attempting to do so, you will not. You must allow each person to dance their dance, learn their lessons, show up as they show up. Learn to be an observer. Learn to be picky. Learn to use discernment of what you allow in your intimate circle, for this is what you will create in your life. If you really believe that you can control your life, keep at it, and when you realize you are literally out of control, let me know. I will, without a doubt, offer you any reflection of your own being…

I want you to be free, as free as me.

~ Angela

Book Club ~ The Untethered Soul ~ Chapter 12 ~ Taking Down the Walls

Good morning and Happy March 1st!  For those of us living in Michigan, this day brings a breath of fresh air, with a new moon in Pisces and the Mercury retrograde ending yesterday, let’s just say a new energy abounds… 

We come to part IV of the book which is termed, Going Beyond.  It shifts the discussion from recognizing the thoughts and overwhelming chatter to grasping how to get past the chatter and thoughts that have been keeping you, what may seem, stuck… in your own mind.  

To begin the conversation of this chapter, I love the comparison of being stuck in your house in the middle of this beautiful field of light and empty space.  The sunflower fields surround you and that is part of the beauty of your home, but as time goes by you begin to create more decor on the inside, you add your own artificial light so that you may feel comfortable and safe in your own space.  You have to read and write and so you need to create this light.  You can’t depend on the light from the outside.  You begin to love your space so much that soon begin to forget about the outside and what sits just on the other side of these walls.   You begin to feel so safe within your walls, you create a sense of pride for how perfect your space is.  There is one problem, you have actually closed yourself off from any light from the outside, any new spectrums touching and this is now what you begin to sense as your safety.  But then there comes the day that the lights die and you have no intention of going out to get more lights.  You have not been outside in who know how long, it is scary, it is unknown. You begin to try to control the light with the candles you had, you try to create a sense of control that you can maintain the light with the candles.  It is the day that your housemate comes up and takes you down into the cellar of the house to show you all of the emergency flashlights that can be used to light up your space. What a relief.  So here it is… YOU have the eternal and infinite light inside of you that can change your life.  You can begin to tear your walls down as you enter into this dark space within your being that you just have not discovered yet.  You have not gotten in touch with it yet but it is there.  And this, my friends, is when the journey of what most term, enlightenment, begins.  As you take the time to get to know this infinite space within you, you begin to tear down the walls that you have built to protect yourself.  All the past beliefs, the past wounds, the past experiences come up for healing and we are actually able to let go quite easily once you are ready to move beyond the walls.  The first step that we have come to is recognizing the walls are even there, then recognizing that we built the walls and then being willing to tear down the walls.  And it all can happen with these small moments of clarity as you set with this beautiful light within yourself.  The problem normally comes as we begin to step towards the walls, we can become scared and resist the tearing down, because for Gods sake, these walls have kept us safe, they have kept us feeling comfortable.  The closer you get to the walls the more the resistance will be. The way to get past this is to consciously choose to be aware that you are ready to break free of the prison that you have built around you… You have to be courageous as you step towards breaking free, and let me tell you what courageousness is built from… vulnerability.  Yes, we must be vulnerable to face the fact that we are not supermen, we are not the prison guard and we may actually be wrong and weak in some areas of our lives. To me, this vulnerability is one of the most courageous acts you will do.     You will find yourself stepping through your fear, anger, and many other emotions as you begin to discover your actual freedom.  As I always say, these emotions are just that, emotions. They are just energy and we are made of energy and we can choose to let go of this energy but it takes a conscious choice and then the strength (vulnerability) to allow yourself to move through them to the other side which brings about the greatest light ever.  The more that you travel into this small light within yourself, the bigger it will get  and soon you will be expanded into the light of which is everything , everywhere and you will look back and giggle at the little box you lived in, all the limiting and self sabotaging beliefs you accepted as your reality.  It is so freeing and it so close.  We are moving into some really good parts.  Allow yourself to laugh at yourself, cry or just sit in nonjudgement as you move in to this new awareness and this new beingness and understanding that your freedom sits right on the other side of those fears and lies you have told yourself. 

 

Are you beginning to see the box you have created?  Are beginning to see the light shining through the darkness?  I hope so.  It escalates from here : )  

 

Blessings ~ 

 

Angela 

Daily Mindful Chat

Today I woke and as usual felt grateful to be alive. I immediately invited the goodness of the world to surrounds and fill me and place me where it will so that I may serve in any way that I can. I began my morning ritual and as I sat down thinking of my prior day and how it effected me, I realized that it is so important to share kindness always. Bitterness in the world will never be healed by more bitterness or more sarcasm. Judgement of others will not be lessened by more banter of why they judge. Pain will never be healed by continuing to talk and carry on and continue the cycle in which you may be causing or allowing your own pain. Dissatisfaction will never become satisfaction by continuing to think about what would satisfy you or why what you have is not. The answer to finding peace within ones self is simply being mindful that we have a choice from moment to moment to allow thing to effect us or not. Mindfulness is the magical dose of happiness that is free of charge and easier than believed to create. It takes time, it takes repetition, it takes forming a new habit, but it saves life’s, it awakens life’s, it changes life’s. As you walk out into the world today, stay present in the moment. Every time your mind want to wander to judge her shoes or say she’s late or how could she do that or he should have down that, just take a deep breath and reset. Let it go! You have no need to worry or judge anyone else. You are really distracting yourself from your own inner work when you choose to focus on others instead of yourself. The greatest Healers and teachers will tell you the same. Until we have mastered the self, we are not using our beautiful intentions to help, to grow or to maintain our closest relations, we are spreading more unjust, senseless and unthoughtful energy around for the sake of allowing our little ego selves feel to acknowledged. So today I ask or challenge this; be bigger, be mindful, and when you want to say something cruel or thoughts become negative, just stop and and tell them you love them. Give them more approval, give the person that judges you approval, give the thoughts that you don’t look good enough approval, give the girl at work that can really press your buttons approval and see how you feel. I guarantee that by the end of the day you will be laughing at yourself and wondering how to stay on such a light place. People are people and things are things. What we see and how we perceive it is all such a personal reality and it is your reality, no one else’s. Today, I ask you to see everything as beautiful, or growing, or perfect, or nothing that matters. 80% of what we think daily does nothing for the goodness of our lives. Let’s reverse that figure and mindfully choose to have 80% of our lives be intentionally filled with beauty, acceptance and love. Let me know how you feel at the end of your day ;).

Happy Tuesday!

Blessings~

Angela

Book Club ~ Chapter 11 ~ The Untethered Soul ~ Pain, The Price of Freedom

This chapter challenges you once again to really look at the way that the pains and old wounds that sit in your heart are effecting your life daily.  The truth is that no true transformation or growth happens until we are willing to take an uncomfortable look at the reasons why things in our lives keep happening and to shift to a higher spiritual and free mental existence.  You see, emotions are just emotions.  I don’t mean to sound uncompassionate because I certainly am.  I just know that they are like little annoying bugs that you can’t stand to see or feel on you so you do anything to avoid them and certainly don’t want anyone to think that you have bugs on you.  Emotions are energy.  They are either an energy that expands you in a feeling of happiness and everything being good, or they are an energy, that if doesn’t feel good, we tend to hold them in and hide them in hopes that no one will know our weakness.  When you were abandoned by a parent as a child, you built a belief that people will always leave you so you better always be on your best behavior, always be perfect and never bring problems or failures to the table because surely people will leave you.  It is the same as when you went to grandmas and she baked homemade cookies and the smell and feeling of eating those cookies was so deliciously delightful, the energy of that will stay with you and when you are around fresh baked cookies you will feel expanded with happiness and good feelings because of what it represents for you energetically or emotionally.  Since the feelings and energy you experience from grandmas cookies are so pleasant you welcome that to your awareness.  When we have a painful event that leads to the thought or fear that we may be left alone or someone may leave us we then react quite differently.  we tend to do anything we can to defend, resist and protect from anything like that happening.  And if it does happen we experiences so much pain for a light experience because  of the deep seated pain that has been sitting for so long. When he speaks of the way that people hide in friendships,  You want to make sure that everyone likes you because if they don’t like you, you must be awful, there must be something wrong with you and so you try harder and harder to be the person that everyone likes.  How tiring.  It tires me just typing that thought.  You try to keep a busy schedule with friends and always try to keep your day filled so that you don’t have to think about any of the painful events or feelings that lurk inside.  So the only way to move to freedom is to recognize that you are doing this, and to recognize that those painful emotions that lie deep must come up and out.  It most likely will be painful, but temporary, like unplugging a clogged sink, the pressure before the water flows again is intense but once it is cleared, you are free!  Watch and see how you try to hide from your pains.  Be aware.

 

Perspective changes make this quite easy to do as well.  I love how he humbles the reader by asking you to walk out side, look up in the sky, notice all the stars, the trillions of stars, and realize that if you were standing on any of the surfaces of those stars you would see our planet as the same of a trillion others.  Then realize you are just here, standing on this round sphere of dirt and that it is your life.  I mean, ultimately, that is your existence, and then think of how juvenile things can enter into your life as if it  is the end of the world if Sally doesn’t like your outfit.  Forget about Sally, Forget about your clothes, you are you, and you are being offered the opportunity to find the greatest experience of life which is freedom to be who you are. the awareness and courage to let things that come to you pass through you without resistance or pain.  The reality is that you can not spend your life resisting any negative experiences.  IT won’t happen. So the powerful thing to do is to learn that  there are going to be negative things that happen and that it okay.  We just learn to not attach to them and then we experience them for what they are and are free from holding on to hang of it.  Like a wave from the ocean just washing over you, and then it is gone.  

 

We are learning to be less resistant to the world around us, we are learning to take responsibility for how we feel and learning to be at peace with these emotions that we make so all encompassing.  We must learn to move with them and let them go.  We must learn to ask why are these things bothering us, and when we really look, with no fear, we learn that it is not about what is happening in that moment.  We are responding from an old wound and we are being offered the perfect opportunity to let it go and be free!  

 

Freedom and peace is what we all desire.  If you do not recognize this, you have a long way to go to attain the peaceful  and spiritual experience of life you may think you do!  Keep letting go, keeping being vulnerable and keep allowing yourself more joyful experiences that not!  

 

Happy Saturday! 

 

Blessings ~ 

 

Angela 

Today’s Pondering on Our Reality

Isn’t it amazing the way things can change in a day, an hour, a moment? Since everything is effecting everything we are constantly being challenged to grow, change or stand strong in the belief or habit we have around such an issue. I find it mesmerizing how people can fool themselves into thinking they are happy when unhappiness is what lingers around them. They look for ways to get out of their daily consciousness because in honesty they are not happy or at peace. I realize that most people work stressful jobs, long hours and find themselves feeling pressure from their bosses, spouses, children, friends, etc. what I don’t understand is why they accept this as their only choice.

I think it is important to note that often the people that suffer with these misconceptions of reality are not willing to let go of old ways. The old ways feel more comfortable than the new, or growth. They tend to cling to things that make them feel “normal”, and ultimately they repress the growth that can happen from intentionally looking for a new way to find balance with their daily life at work and their personal life at home. I remember being in my younger 20’s and thinking I had it all figured out. I would work hard, and play harder. That became a bleak reality as I grew. I realized quickly that there was no true growth there and that ultimately it left me feeling tired, overworked and stressed. So I changed all of it. I have been a seeker since I was 5 years old and have lived with all kinds of perceptions as my truth which leads me to believe that we are all creating the lives we love, they may be sprinkled with stress, frustration, need for withdrawal or they may be sprinkled with acceptance, time to rebalance and gratitude for the awareness to practice finding peace within such a busy world.

I share this because ultimately I have come to accept that I am “lame” in comparison to many peoples lifestyles and I am ok with it. I love it! I embrace it! I am also more at peace with life that most. This is not to boast, it is to say I am so grateful I am no longer in the rat race, chasing a life that isn’t possible for me and trying to say that I need to change to party more, be more, say more. I love where I Am, who I am and all the things that come with accepting my imperfections.

Today, I hold compassion for those chasing the fast life, thinking that is what life is, that the faster and busier your life is the better it will be. Let me tell you, it is all the same cycle if you don’t change within to accept the life you live and make peace with it. If you need change, change it. No one is going to save you, no drinking is going to take away your worry and no crowd will make you forget your own stresses. One day, you will get it, maybe. But look at the men you admire, the women that inspire you… are balanced, poised and clearly moving in a direction to success of themselves and their maturity is what is so attractive. We all learn at our own pace, but today, I will intentionally visualize the world finding peace within, not in the world. Keep looking in the world and I guarantee you pain, stress, frustration and bad health. Get it together people. And this is not coming from a place of judgement, it is coming of a place of genuine concern and compassion. If your lost, get found. And if you have been looking for awhile, maybe it is time to change where you are looking

Angela

Book Club ~ Chapter 10 ~ The Untethered Soul ~ Stealing Freedom For Your Soul ~

This chapter gets deeper as it makes you look at what you are personally choosing and taking responsibility for.  I love it!!!  We are constantly being offered a choice in how we will perceive things and let them effect us.  So, can you really just decide you don’t want to suffer anymore and begin to change what is happening in your life?  YES!  You truly can.  That is the first step.  Just like an addict, the first step is to recognize that there is a problem and then you decide where you will go from that awareness.  This awareness is usually the beginning of a beautiful unfolding of your life. 

Most attempts to have everything be perfect is truly the rejection of our fears and pains.  We continue to look outside and think that if we just keep everything out there looking good and perfect that everything within will be a mirror of that.  The problem is that it is the other way around.  We must find peace and perfection within before we can see it in the outside world.  We are often sitting with deep wounds that are hidden by the mind.  We play games around them.  We are sad because they said that, or they did that or  they didn’t do that or only if this or only if that.  What a neurotic joke!  The kicker is that you are doing it to yourself.  Ready to stop?  : )   The reality is that we do not want to feel the pain, we do not want to admit that we are fearful. In every moment we are either protecting the fearful space within or we are aware of the fearful place within.  Either way you act, you are creating your reality of more disappointments or more enlightenments.  I love the perspective of the psyche is communicating that it needs attention when you are in fear or when you are suffering like the body communicates through physical pain.  It is a sign that we must do some work to fix the melodrama.  You mind is misleading you if you are not healed.  A disturbed mind will continue to lead you down the wrong road.  You will constantly think someone should fix it, someone else should make you feel better, blah blah blah.  Its is a trap. We must break the cycle.  

And then we come to the root problem, the core issue… The issue that you do not feel whole and complete within yourself!  That may be hard to hear but understand that until you accept this you will continue with the anxious, problematic and blaming mind.  Once you accept that you are the problem, the whole thing changes.  We begin to look where we can fix things, how we can let go of old pains and lies about our life.  Until then, you go on trying to cover it up with things, your clothes, your relationship, your job, your car, etc etc.

“the truth is everything will be ok once you are ok with everything”, is the most simple truth stated.  Wayne Dyer states, “you will see it when you believe it”, what a beautiful and empowering truth.  It changed my life years ago.  The mind is simply a computer with files that keep playing in the background.  It may just simply need a reboot.  Stop clinging to the old model, the safe way.  Lets empty the files, learn the newest and most eloquent ways to use the new space made by emptying the files and create a perfect and easy computer to maintain.  Its like going from an old gateway to a mac.  You will never beat the old mind, stop trying, it will win every time if you do not realize that you must just learn to let go and be still.  Find the quiet,  and for this it takes commitment and time.  We must retrain the brain to silence.  It can be done.  It is beautiful.  I love my mind and it is my friend.  I still have moments of anxiety but when I look at what is happening, it is my own wounds that trying to trap me and carry me into an old familiar melodrama.  Not going there!!!  Become the observer and watch the mind.  Watch it, look at it, see it, and then laugh at it!  It is a fricken joke : )  You are so much more than your mind.  

I think it is very powerful to remind yourself what is real.  stopping through the day often and realizing you are this little being, sitting in your house, which is one city, in one state, in one nation, on one continent, in the middle of water, spinning in a universe that is endless, with who knows how many other planets.  Its humbling and it is huge to think of this.  Do it… These moments do create centered consciousness.  

 

Happy Saturday and Happy Growing!  

Book Club ~ Chapter 9 ~. Removing Your Inner Thron

Good morning! I am so sorry that This chapter did not post last weekend! I used my iPad and it usually does. Someone pointed out that it did not. So we are at Chapter 9 since it did not post! Happy weekend! Happy reading, happy growing and happy living!

What is your inner thorn? As you read this chapter were you aware of your thorn? Were you aware you had one? Can you see how ever in your life you actually tried to hide the Thorn, push it down and deny it was there? When was the time that you couldn’t deny it anymore? Maybe you lost someone or something valuable to you by trying to hide and deny that you had anything wrong. Maybe you were aware and able to move through the thorn? Find it, respect it, learn what it is and then let it go? That is what we want to do. When we protect ourselves we do not solve anything, we actually create so much anxiety if we do not let it go. You have been resisting it and allowing yourself to heal from it. Being sensitive is a beautiful thing, but if we have these inner thorns it is not a good combo. We want to honor our sensitivities in life but we must not ignore the thorns. Do you see that you avoid situations that may touch the sensitive part? This is how we can end up hardened and closed to life and it’s beauty.

These inner thorns are like little gifts waiting to be opened. Every time that you get in contact with one of your thorns, you release so much stagnant and anxious energy in your body. You let go of so much mental energy by letting go of the need to think of how to protect, resist and hide your inner wounds. It’s not worth it! Do not doubt yourself! Know that you are stronger than this little thorn and begin to be aware of how it has been effecting your life. You are not your thorn, the thorn is staying with you. It is not you, but you must stop identifying yourself with them. It sounds so easy and it is! You must get in touch with them and bring them up and let them go. The problem is that you think too much about how you can’t let it go. I work with clients in letting go all the time and it is easier than you know. Fragments of the thorn may come back up every once in awhile but you will feel empowered and able to let go of any old energy ready to leave! I am going to hold an emotional release workshop on such subject. The emotions and feelings are not you! They seem so real and so daunting but they are not you, they a part of you. They are offering you an experience of letting go and learning how to be In the moment, witness it and let it go! Free! More energy, more blessings and genuine peace!

Become an observer of the experiences of this life, it is a part of the paradigm but it not the whole picture! We are learning new ways, new techniques. This is most likely one of the tougher chapter since it really makes you look in spaces of yourself you may have been denying. Don’t run, open to it :). Let it go!

Blessings ~

Angela